Mr. Nice Guy
Tuesday, July 28th, 2009Everyone has heard the saying that nice guys always finish last. However, rather than referring to male/female relationships, I wonder if the quote applies to professional success and productivity. This adage was stuck in my head while I watched a movie called “Yes Man” a few days ago. If you haven’t seen it yet, go do so! – great humor and entertainment. It stars Jim Carrey as a bank employee who reluctantly decides to follow an outlandish program called “Yes!” Everyone that follows the program is encouraged to say yes to every single opportunity that presents itself because it’s supposed to allow you to live a richly satisfying and rewarding life. As a result, you get to witness a host of hilarious events throughout the movie. It’s not hard to guess what happens to Jim Carrey’s character during the plot’s rising action – utter chaos and disorganization.
It’s obvious that saying yes all the time doesn’t have good implications. However, maybe some of you (like me) still have trouble mustering up the courage to say no to more people, especially to family and friends.
If so, read this article I (coincidentally) came across a couple days after watching the movie - “Say ‘Yes’ to ‘No’!”
The article makes a valid point: We’re all too familiar with the regretful, and sometimes resentful, feeling we get after agreeing to do something for someone and it ends up taking way too much time. Granted it’s a very kind gesture, too much of it can definitely take a toll on our own personal goals. As the article states, “it’s important to remember that every time you say ‘yes’ to something or someone, you’re saying ‘no’ elsewhere in your life” and it’s likely that you’re saying no to yourself or your personal agenda. Once you realize how much you’re helping others with THEIR tasks, it’s silly to say no to your OWN tasks and not invest the same amount of effort to your own personal goals. At any rate, it’s imperative that we clearly understand what’s on our own plate at all times so that we can be prepared to say no to people and support it with solid reasons. After all, it’s nice to be honest! Moreover, people will respect your reasons and you can finish the tasks you have at hand. You shouldn’t have to be disorganized because of anything other than your own problems.
The lesson for you and I (and Jim Carrey’s character) is that you can still be a nice person if you occasionally say no and, furthermore, that nice people really can finish last with their work if they don’t take care of their own time. As for romantic relationships, I’m really not sure how credible that saying is…
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